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What’s up Tez?  I looked through most of the thread and didn’t see what the problem is.  Is it mood stuff or is it home stuff or what?

Yes, you could call it "mooooooooooooooo"d stuff. It’s just that I’m so faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat. I feel like a cooooooooooooooooooooow. I look like one, too. Over a year ago I put on an extra 25 lbs on in six months time.  It’s still here.   I hate it that I am not doing something about it. I hate it that as soon as I think about losing weight (dieting) I eat more food. I loath my chocolate addiction. I bought a scale today. I am going to WRITE down my goals. I will exercise on the treadmill. I will do this so I have one less thing to hate about myself. I will use as many "I’s" as I feel I need to.  I.   What’s the matter with me? –Tez – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I need to whine.   I’m kind of getting very unhappy.   So there. p/e -addy prob

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Yes, you could call it "mooooooooooooooo"d stuff. It’s just that I’m so faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat. I feel like a cooooooooooooooooooooow. I look like one, too. Over a year ago I put on an extra 25 lbs on in six months time.  It’s still here.   I hate it that I am not doing something about it. I hate it that as soon as I think about losing weight (dieting) I eat more food.

After I answered in this thread before, mentioning weight, I immediately thought about tearing into the brownies (sorry if i shouldn’t mention those) my mother bought herself. Like the whole box or what’s left. Had the brownies been within 30 seconds’ reach, I probably would have. And I wasn’t even hungry for the meal I’ve had today. I loath my chocolate addiction. I bought a scale today. I am going to WRITE down my goals. I will exercise on the treadmill. I will do this so I have one less thing to hate about myself. I will use as many "I’s" as I feel I need to.  I.   What’s the matter with me?

Do you talk about this in therapy? I know you said it’s been a very helpful process for you so I wondered if the eating problem was covered there? silver, who’s been mostly behaving on her diet to lose 10 or 15, but seems to have acquired an adult metabolism. (or maybe a post-starvation-diet metabolism lasts 3 years) — For more information about this service, send e-mail to:

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I need to whine.   I’m kind of getting very unhappy.   So there.

Hey Tezza, I never saw your original post, but have seen some of the thread. You know I am one of those people you can whine to about whatever if you don’t want to do it to everyone. If it’s a weight thing, I wouldn’t mind hearing it at this particular point, either… sincerely, silver — For more information about this service, send e-mail to:

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What’s up Tez?  I looked through most of the thread and didn’t see what the problem is.  Is it mood stuff or is it home stuff or what? [snip] Over a year ago I put on an extra 25 lbs on in six months time.  It’s still here.  

Ahhhhhh….. Body image stuff.  Bummer [snip] I will exercise on the treadmill.

OK.  How much time and how many times per week?  Is there anything that will help you keep your word to yourself on this? I will do this so I have one less thing to hate about myself.

Is there a more positive reason to do this, like "I will do this because I enjoy the feeling of health and vitality I get from exercising"?   Would it be any easier to actually do exercise if you didn’t hate yourself for being whatever you are in the present? What’s the matter with me?

Absolutely *nothing*… other than the fact you think there is something wrong with you.  If you could stop that doing, you’d be happier I’d bet. AND… I need to get out an exercise too.  Since the end of my relationship with Deborah about two years ago I haven’t been doing a whole lot of physical activity –just sitting in front of this computer.  I used top be in pretty fair shape, but… that’s kinda a "used to be" right now. — greg :: Bodhisattva with a real bad attitude         Take the *JUNKMAIL out of my addy to reply by email

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What’s up Tez?  I looked through most of the thread and didn’t see what the problem is.  Is it mood stuff or is it home stuff or what? I need to whine.   I’m kind of getting very unhappy.   So there.

p/e -addy prob — greg :: Bodhisattva with a real bad attitude         Take the *JUNKMAIL out of my addy to reply by email

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I need to whine.   help me

ok. first. do you prefer red or white. then we go to store and buy some grapes (red or green) and some cheese (infinite varieties but try to limit ourselves to 2 or 3) then we buy a nice fresh baguette…… Bleh.  I’ve eaten too many M&M’s, and I feel sick.  I’m kind of getting very unhappy.   So there.

oh wait. i think you may already be full. and i think i know why you want to whine (if it is M&M related) and i will do it too (about cheese puffs). purrs from, kitty (trying to be sympathetic but realizing she doesn’t sound it)

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well whenever you are ready… eyes closed and ears open!! Thanks  :-)

you are more than welcome <bowing heeheehee I’d like to see you try… well then come on down… hehe… I can keep my eyes closed for long periods of time heehee…sleeping?  I am aching for a nap…couldn’t sleep last night. As soon as my little girl is ready I’m gonna try for little sleep. She doesn’t look very sleepy today……

actually I can keep my eyes closed too when awake… but it’s a bit harder to do… hmmm… what my friend and I do with her 4 year old, 3 year old and 18 month old (and the 3 year old she babysits) is we take them out to a soccer field and stage races for them… run them up and down the field over and over again… (they actually beg us to let them keep running ) and then when we get home we feed them and they go right to sleep… always very nice… they aren’t bad… the regular and the peanut butter ones are better though… but then again I love peanut butter… reeces pieces are my absolute favourite though…mmmmm Those are pretty good, but they aren’t something I ever consider buying.  They don’t appeal enough to my chocolate cravings.

I just like that rich peanut butter… mmmm I don’t like peanuts though unfortunately… but then again I’m allergic to chocolate… but about once a month I have to go there Made me laugh….cute.

the curse of all women… i think Oh.  I’m just not happy, liah.  What am I going to do? choices… 1. ignore it (not suggested) 2. talk about it… (always helpful) 3. write it down, read it over… and see if you can spot anything that helps… That’s it!  At least I’m going to give number three a chance.  That used to work for me in the past, but as you get older it can be harder because you lose your ability to believe that you can change your behavior.

true… but if you want it enough… you need to at least try it… thinks I!!! hehe… I should actually take my own advice and try that one more often… 4. do something to change what makes you unhappy… (easier said than done… I know) 5. run around in circles, screaming your head off… (always thought to help… especially with making your friends/family thinking you’re nuts) 6. run away (a personal favourite of mine but alas… again not suggested) I always ran away when I was younger and more "mobile."  Not so easy now.

same here… I think as i’ve gotten older (I know I’m not "that" old now but…) I find the creature comforts a bit nicer to have around… warmth, showers, running water.. a place to stretch out… food that needs to be refridgerated… and my cat likes having a home that doesn’t move… 7.  go outside and play like you were 7 years old and then come inside and drink hot chocolate with more marshmellows than chocolate… *perk*  Hot chocolate?  But that’s at the root of my problem  :-(

some of it is okay… check the contents… even when I have money I only buy foods that won’t hurt me… I’m so desperate to get back in shape… I eat a lot of wheat bread, cereals, rice, chicken/fish, soup, WOW potato chips… hehe… the likes of all that… or 8. post it in asd… ask for suggestion… throw away the answers you don’t like and consider the ones you do… Thank you liah.  Thanks for your time  :-)     I appreciate it very much.

again… you are more than welcome to as much time as you need… =) –Tezza   (gonna write and write on paper today)

good deal… liah To steal ideas from one person is plagiarism; to steal from many is research.  

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Heh. I just started a ketogenic diet after New Years because I’ve put on *too* much weight. Now that I’m expecting, I have to quit it. I’ll be overweight for a long time now. It’s worth it, tho. But my weight has really been an issue with me lately.

I can’t so those types of diets.  I get really bad back pain…guess my kidneys can’t handle the strain. My third and last pregnancy went pretty well weight wise.  I finally took the advice about eating more protein, and it helped me feel so much better!   Are you feeling sick yet?   Maybe you won’t…some blessed women never throw up during pregnancy! I still want to whine, but I’m not willing to dump it all just yet. Okay. I’m here, if you decide to.

Thanks hon.  I will.  I’m going to try and write it all out on paper like liah suggested.  May help a lot. –Tezza  

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well whenever you are ready… eyes closed and ears open!!

Thanks  :-) heeheehee I’d like to see you try… well then come on down… hehe… I can keep my eyes closed for long periods of time

heehee…sleeping?  I am aching for a nap…couldn’t sleep last night. As soon as my little girl is ready I’m gonna try for little sleep. She doesn’t look very sleepy today…… they aren’t bad… the regular and the peanut butter ones are better though… but then again I love peanut butter… reeces pieces are my absolute favourite though…mmmmm

Those are pretty good, but they aren’t something I ever consider buying.  They don’t appeal enough to my chocolate cravings. I don’t like peanuts though unfortunately… but then again I’m allergic to chocolate… but about once a month I have to go there

Made me laugh….cute. Oh.  I’m just not happy, liah.  What am I going to do? choices… 1. ignore it (not suggested) 2. talk about it… (always helpful) 3. write it down, read it over… and see if you can spot anything that helps…

That’s it!  At least I’m going to give number three a chance.  That used to work for me in the past, but as you get older it can be harder because you lose your ability to believe that you can change your behavior. 4. do something to change what makes you unhappy… (easier said than done… I know) 5. run around in circles, screaming your head off… (always thought to help… especially with making your friends/family thinking you’re nuts) 6. run away (a personal favourite of mine but alas… again not suggested)

I always ran away when I was younger and more "mobile."  Not so easy now. 7.  go outside and play like you were 7 years old and then come inside and drink hot chocolate with more marshmellows than chocolate…

*perk*  Hot chocolate?  But that’s at the root of my problem  :-( or 8. post it in asd… ask for suggestion… throw away the answers you don’t like and consider the ones you do…

Thank you liah.  Thanks for your time  :-)     I appreciate it very much. –Tezza   (gonna write and write on paper today)

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whine away! I want to, I really do!

well whenever you are ready… eyes closed and ears open!! feel better if we all close our eyes? heeheehee I’d like to see you try…

well then come on down… hehe… I can keep my eyes closed for long periods of time I had too many M&Ms too… I had to try those new crunchy types… and now i feel ucky.. Ewwwwww, now I am gonna be sick.  Hm, how are they?  Seems sacreligious to me.  The peanut butter ones are nice now and then, like once a year.

they aren’t bad… the regular and the peanut butter ones are better though… but then again I love peanut butter… reeces pieces are my absolute favourite though…mmmmm I forgot to tell Skorch I was eating both plain and peanut.  Valentine colors.  My favorite are the Easter ones.   They look pretty on chocolate icecream.  

I don’t like peanuts though unfortunately… but then again I’m allergic to chocolate… but about once a month I have to go there Oh.  I’m just not happy, liah.  What am I going to do?

choices… 1. ignore it (not suggested) 2. talk about it… (always helpful) 3. write it down, read it over… and see if you can spot anything that helps… 4. do something to change what makes you unhappy… (easier said than done… I know) 5. run around in circles, screaming your head off… (always thought to help… especially with making your friends/family thinking you’re nuts) 6. run away (a personal favourite of mine but alas… again not suggested) 7.  go outside and play like you were 7 years old and then come inside and drink hot chocolate with more marshmellows than chocolate… or 8. post it in asd… ask for suggestion… throw away the answers you don’t like and consider the ones you do… Sorry.  I know I’m being foolish right now.  It will pass.

if it’s enough to bother you then it certainly isn’t foolish… ya know?   –Tezza

liah To steal ideas from one person is plagiarism; to steal from many is research.  

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whine away!

I want to, I really do! feel better if we all close our eyes?

heeheehee I’d like to see you try… I had too many M&Ms too… I had to try those new crunchy types… and now i feel ucky..

Ewwwwww, now I am gonna be sick.  Hm, how are they?  Seems sacreligious to me.  The peanut butter ones are nice now and then, like once a year. I forgot to tell Skorch I was eating both plain and peanut.  Valentine colors.  My favorite are the Easter ones.   They look pretty on chocolate icecream.   Oh.  I’m just not happy, liah.  What am I going to do? Sorry.  I know I’m being foolish right now.  It will pass. –Tezza

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I think that’s the best kind of whining. To the point and honest. I wish I *could* help. What do you need help with?

Oh……long story, weight related….thus boring. Peanut or plain? And BTW, my hubby and I are right next to you and your precious baby on Jane’s site. You’re lovely.

Hey!  You sure are!  What a couple of cuties y’all are…very pretty, Skorch.  Gosh, all the dark haired beauties on ASD!  I’m feeling so pale all of a sudden. The baby is now two years old, and runs us ragged around here.  She has two older siblings to teach her all the tricks. I still want to whine, but I’m not willing to dump it all just yet.   Waaaaaaaaaaaaah! –Tez

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I need to whine.   help me

whine away! Is that good whining?  I can’t whine very well in front of a lot of people.

feel better if we all close our eyes? Bleh.  I’ve eaten too many M&M’s, and I feel sick.  I’m kind of getting very unhappy.   So there.

I had too many M&Ms too… I had to try those new crunchy types… and now i feel ucky.. –Tezza

liah To steal ideas from one person is plagiarism; to steal from many is research.  

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I need to whine.   help me Is that good whining?  I can’t whine very well in front of a lot of people. Bleh.  I’ve eaten too many M&M’s, and I feel sick.  I’m kind of getting very unhappy.   So there. –Tezza

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